A few months ago, we celebrated our 18 years of marriage!! Eighteen years on our way to forever together. ;) Topics and advice on a great marriage are plentiful today and as we heard of the different "marriage boosters" down through the years, we've had to share smiles at the humour we found in some of them!
One particular one was that to add spice to your marriage and to keep it growing, a marriage author suggested that you buy a new sheet set once a week or month! I was thinking that after awhile even Mike wouldn't know which one is the "new" one with the collection of sheet sets that would be around our house!! ;)
The topic of marriage is of great importance. Selfishness between two adults is so often clearly evident.
The brokenness in families is so sad. I especially am touched with sadness when I hear of another separation or divorce. It truly is the children that get the raw part of the deal. They become subjected to now two moms and two dads, all because their real mommy and daddy tried to escape the pain of healing, of forgiveness and the pain of saying no to their own selfishness.
But one cannot truly escape pain or consequences to their desicions...so now the parents still walk thro' pain and take the children thro' the pain with them.
I know a couple who became the best of friends and truly their hearts were touched beautifully by the other. After close to 2 years of being in a sweet relationship, they married. As they embarked with all their dreams that would carry them to forever together, it was altogether lovely till...
That's the clincher right there...that moment we find ourself in a place we really wasn't prepared for...probably most of us haven't truly been nurtured in the Word of God and first really and truly given our whole self to Jesus completely before we began on the journey of marriage. When we present Jesus with the throne of our heart and ask Him to reside there, we actually live outside of ourself and that has a beautiful way of creating room to love others as He loves them. It creates within us the beautiful spirit of giving, serving, nurturing and that is divine marriage material to build a lovely home!!
Contrary, if Christ is not central in our life, who is? Sadly, we are. And that my friend, is in large, the answer for the crumbling marriages..selfishness is holding ourself close and it offers no room to truly hold another close. Yes, for seemingly a season perhaps, but it's not rock to build upon..the sand castle we've built for ourselves eventually dissolves when the rains come and ultimately we begin to nurture #1 ( ourself) and we demand our happiness to be met and we find our marriages falling apart.
This couple, I am writing of is Mike and I. It was only after letting Jesus take the central position in our lives and home that our love began to flourish, and this fairytale dreamer that I always was, truly began to see the golden sweetness of everyday living a happily ever after.
I truly believe most marriages can heal.. But we've heard the lie for so long that it isn't possible and we find ourselves believing that over the Voice of Truth. If we had not walked the painful and confusing path of our marriage falling apart, and our dreams with it, I would have no idea what some are walking through. And I realize every story is different, with different degrees of pain, but I still believe that one of the Names of Christ is "Healer" and He is able to turn around what we can't and take what satan meant for evil in our lives and create something oh so lovely with it!!!
Mike and I are excited to be enjoying life together and when the bumps come, we trust God to guide us through them, and He is faithful!!! And life is truly filled with joy and beauty. Don't let satan convince you that you will only be happy looking out for yourself. Trust me, when two people are looking out for the other, nurturing and protecting the other, the effect is astounding in its beauty and preciousness!!! ;)
It is as crisp and fresh as the mornings dew..it is as exhilerating as those moments when we find ourselves surrounded by nature as we breath in its refreshing and soul thrilling beauty!! The security and faithfulness reminds me of a strong oak tree...able to stand tall, strong and glorious in the sunshine and in the storms!!! This is real and it is ours to enjoy in Christ!!
Everything Christ touches is altogether lovely!!!
"I loved you yesterday, I love you still. I always have and I always will."
And I believe deep down in most of us the love for our husband/wife never really died. It was smothered underneath a whole lot of lies, for a season...
And if we allow Christ the central place in both of our hearts we truly experience a tiny sweet piece of Heaven right here on earth!! :)
To read a bit more about God working His wonders in our marriage you may want to read the post titled, "Rekindled Love".
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